How 2 approach A Woman In a Club or Bar
HOW 2 APPROACH A WOMAN IN A CLUB OR BAR
Theres no doubt that bars and clubs are the best place to meet women. Guys talk about getting out there and doing it, but at the end of the day but the reality is most guys flat out suck..
So, right about now you’re probably looking this and saying, “yeah, so help me out a bit, eh”.
You got it.
Step one to talking to a woman in the club is to relax. Don’t expect anything special to happen right away. Don’t expect her to be instantly attracted to you. There are muscle shirt guys all around you – they can pull that off. Your job is to be the interesting, curious, challenging guy that she needs to chase.
And you need to make your impression fast.
The approach should be simple, short, and sweet. Go up to her, be straightforward and AVOID LINES. Some guys will feed you lines. I steer clear and just go with something simple and honest.
But, here’s the key to what you tell her. Make it about you – not about her.
Here’s an awesome example.
Jim goes up to a woman and says, “you have fantastic eyes”. Okay, good compliment, simple short, but Jim just handed over control of the conversation in the first line, showing her that he is willing to make it all about HER.
After Jim ultimately strikes out, Eric comes up and does his own thing. He says “Green eyes remind me of my garden back home. I love the way yours shimmer.” Check this one out. Same compliment, but it’s about Eric, not about her.
Eric doesn’t need to divulge any more – he can just jump into a short story about his day that makes some good points, but it should all relate to him somehow with plenty of chances for her to ask questions that will open up more.
Sounds complicated, but it’s easy as it comes.
She’s intrigued because you’re not showering her with gifts and compliments. And don’t forget – you don’t have to be into her. You can walk away, letting it linger with her. Guess how much it works her up if you come up, say something like that and then walk away with a “bye, my friends are waiting.”
Holy crap! She won’t see that coming from a thousand miles away. I’m serious!
You’ve just done something no guy would dare to do to an attractive woman.
And it works, because now she wants to know more about you.
She probably won’t come hunt you down, but check this out – you’re in a bar and she’s going to be around. Wait a few minutes, stumble back into her with a drink or on the dance floor and you have a tremendous amount of rapport and interest already built.
Instantly – you’re in.
Don’t believe me? Check out the poor schmucks who hang on her like a runny nose. Watch the body language and her eyes. She wants out. Now, give this a shot. One or two casual lines, a walk away, and she’s all yours.